Is he/she really your soul mate?

Ever wonder if the person you married is REALLY your soul mate?

 I married my soul mate some twenty years ago.  The difference is that he died suddenly a year and a half ago and now I'm left to muster through this life literally separated from half my heart... 

What prompted me to write about this topic is a recent face book post I saw about a girl who lost her husband four years ago leaving her to raise small children alone.  Well, yesterday she remarried and I almost regurgitated reading all the FB comments toting their thankfulness that she was finally in love and happy again.  This baffles me beyond belief!  Her remarrying tells me clearly that although she loved and adored her "first" husband, he wasn't her soul mate!  If he were, SHE NEVER WOULD EVEN CONSIDER FOR A SINGLE SOLITARY MOMENT to remarry.  Losing a soul mate is like losing a leg; you cant replace it!  Yes, you can strap on a prosthetic one and hobble around pretending its your real leg, BUT ITS NOT!

So ask yourself this: is the man or woman you married the one and only to hold your heart for all the rest of your days?  And not just til death do you part? Or would you toss that cliche to the wind just because your lonely and it would be "easier" to have a companion again?

WOULD YOU REMARRY AGAIN?

  There in lies the answer to the question! 

 If you answered yes, well then you are not one of the few who are blessed enough to marry their soul mate.  Yes you love him or her but its not a love that is irreplacable.  A Love that tears at your gut at the thought of being seperated.  A love that if apart, would leave you in a valley of shallow breathes all the rest of the days of your life.  A love that seperated, would plant you firmly in a steady ache and longing for reunion.  When God binds two hearts to become one, it is forever and not simply" till death do us part".

But if the answer was an emphatic NO and the thought of it turns your stomach and confuses the synapses in your brain, then you my friend just might be married to soul mate! A rare gift to be cherished and honored with commitment, loyalty and most of all gratitude.

If I had a nickle for every time I've heard " oh your young, you'll marry again" or "if my husband died I don't think I'd marry again because relationships are too much work" or "I'm not sure how my children would react".  These telling statements are so revealing about the person saying them.  They are like neon flashing confessions screaming "I DON'T KNOW WHAT ITS LIKE TO MARRY MY SOUL MATE". If you did, you would never say such ridiculous things, especially OUT LOUD and to a hopelessly devoted widow.

My reason for never marrying again is not because of the energy relationships take or the trials it might inadvertently bestow my children. No my reason is SOLELY because my husband is my heart, he is and always will be MY HUSBAND.  God has created and commanded our love. Marriage (created by the hands of God, not man) is not a process to be repeated for convenience.   Its a union of two souls created inseparable by the divine hands of  God. 

HE blessed Dennis and I with a love that emulates HIS undying, unwavering love for HIS children, DESPITE our separation. God reassures us that our love is timeless, eternal and that one day we will all be together again.

Because FOREVER could NEVER be long enough